Is Your Transition Tactful or Timid?
In June, I transitioned out of my role as President of ICF New England, and into the role of Past President. Now, as we enter the final month of the year, I'm hearing that some of you are in a transition yourselves.
Transitions often move us from known to unknown. They can bring us from old and stale to new and exciting. Some transitions, though, aren’t so welcome. As you navigate your next transition, here are three ways to maintain your discernment.
1. Be tactful instead of timid
In the moments where you're simply not sure, you can put your antennae up and increase your sensitivity and ability to perceive until you do understand the right next step. This is importantly distinct from shying away from your areas of uncertainty. It can be a tendency to ignore areas -- topics, people, concepts -- where we feel 'out of our element'. Instead, try using tact in accessing your courage and confidence amidst the uncertainty. I've been known to say to my coaching clients: "You are allowed to confidently say the words 'I don't know.' "
And please don't forget to give yourself grace – a close cousin of tact!
2. Let curiosity trump nervousness
Nervousness about the newness can bring extra energy. You've probably heard the advice to channel that energy to excitement. While helpful, a step farther – or maybe wiser – would be to channel your nervous energy into curiosity and start asking questions starting with "I wonder".
I wonder what I'll learn from this transition.
I wonder what will be most challenging for me.
I wonder how I can enjoy this even when it's uncomfortable.
The fact that you may feel some nervousness is glorious evidence of your aliveness to the opportunity in front of you.
3. Seek out space and support
Some transitions come with the opportunity for time off in between roles. If that's the case, TAKE IT! Many times, if the role you're leaving had an element of stress and burnout, you need the space more than you might think. Take it.
Other transitions, like mine to past President, inherently bring more space. Yet, for many of you reading this, the transitions represent promotions and bring no such thing as more space. In that case, seek support. One-on-one coaching is an excellent way for a busy leader to carve space in their schedule. It optimizes the use of that spaciousness. If coaching isn’t an option, find a mentor and have lunch monthly. Or carve out 15 minutes of reflection time each morning before your work day begins.
In conclusion, if you find yourself in transition, traverse the uncharted terrain with tact, not timidity. Cultivate your curiosity at what lies yet undiscovered, and take the space and support that you deserve.
